Recover your partner in 30 Days Following These Simple Steps

The reasons for their breakup are often very traumatic and very painful for any member or two (infidelity, cheating, arguments, abuse) and prevent resentment is reconciled pair again though in many cases remains love and affection.

When the couple begins to malfunction for whatever reason is no doubt that it is the responsibility of both trying to take the right road, though not always the case and very often is one of the members of the victim and makes responsible for everything else. Given these two roles is difficult to reach agreements.

The victim will look for allies in their environment to continue instilling the other the responsibility and guilt about the situation they are living. When a person is a victim in the break means that it will not do anything to solve the problem, which is quite sure he is not guilty and that he has to change is the other.

This attitude is not just a way to circumvent a problem that depends on two people, because a couple is two. Even in cases where it is very clear that the other has committed a serious error (infidelity, for example) has also affected some responsibility because no one is looking for a third party if it works.

If you do not work for nothing and that if they have some responsibility. Why my wife has been unfaithful? How have I contributed to it? We seldom ask that question and take refuge in victimhood to avoid facing a problem.

The loss

Once carried out the break appears mourning the loss of a loved one. Each person will assess it differently: a remake his life away and others maintain a duel for months, even years, without actually solving the problem.

Overcoming the break

At this stage of overcoming the break, there are many conflicting and confusing feelings and difficult to opt for a coherent approach.

Sometimes we want to go back to the couple and we miss him and sometimes we hate to treat us badly or we have echo whatever.

Try again

When we overcome this uncertainty, some people decide to try again in spite of everything because they think they compensated and that life really is much more satisfying to your partner.

Maybe in bad times, we are so extreme that we are not able to appreciate the good points of our relationship and we get carried away by the negativity, all bad and we see no further. When we have lost and what we see from outside, sometimes we realize that it was not so bad, and that those things that were unbearable and we demanded these changes may be viable and do not involve much cost.

Especially if we have a tendency anxious and obsessive, can fall into the mistake of centralizing in a negative idea and from it exaggerate a situation with the consequent breakdown of the relationship.

Can you defend your interests without going into that game of victimhood and blame?

Reconcile with your partner

Once the stage of mourning, they prepared to decide if your goal is to get back together with your partner or go ahead alone. If you choose the former, will have to prepare in some ways that probably have been reduced due to the traumatic separation lived. Need preparation time before facing your partner and suggest a change.

First, you must strengthen security in yourself, remember that you may have been responsible for your break, or you have touched that role, thus, the approaches to your partner will be full of recriminations, accusations , reviews, etc..

You are emotionally prepared for it? Can you defend your interests without going into that game of victimhood and blame? Emotionally you have to be strong, to transmit to the other person and trust in you.

If you decide to break, the other will not believe your new decision, will accuse you of "weathervane" and his first impulse is denial.

Get ready for it

You need to be prepared for it, you can not suffer an emotional letdown every time you have a contact with him. The formula shall be prepared for some tricks when you go to see you:

Repeat your point of view again and again

Explain your purpose from the outset but only once

Do not justify yourself all the time, give signs of weakness

Defend your position and to attack avoids the conversation, jump on a tangent, talking about something else do not give attention and affection when juego.Préstale treat you well and speak kindly, if you do not do your feelings ataca.Exprésale positive assumes your mistakes, be comforted

Are you afraid to be alone or lonely?

Other points to keep in mind your needs are. You will have to assess which is the reason that makes you want to return may need protection or take you love to do something that really has no reason to be.

Are you afraid to be alone? Do you want to fill a void? If so, remember all the bad relationship and see if you are worth trying again only by fear. The fear is overcome and you can learn to live alone. Your partner will need adequate time to begin to react. At that time you will be the victim of accusations, denials, good times and bad. If you're focused on your overall goal you cope better.

Give it time

Do not focalices in conversation yesterday that was so traumatic and accusatory and assess the progress you are making a whole. If you focus on the little details will have moments of elation and dejection. Focus on the general and will keep you in a middle ground. You will be given time to react and it's important to put in place.

It is very well defend your interests above everything, but the other one also needs to be heard and valued, also wants to meet your interests.

Note that you take the decision to return for yourself and the other is a decision that comes from him. Put yourself in their place and give it time, not pressure.

The rush is bad for everything. If you're patient you can get to be friends with your ex-partner, of course not in the early days, when you are most hurt, but later. When you've got that friendship can be a springboard for establishing good communication, talk about your stuff and gradually will get involved again with each other.

You know that the result depends only on you, so we need a reasonable time to change lenses if necessary.

If you do not, change course

Maybe your partner does not have so keen to get back together, they might not let your fear be well though I wish, sometimes love is not enough, there might be another person, etc ...

Do not fight against all odds because they end up emotionally shattered and towed by a unit that will not help you progress, begin to reinforce your strengths and your self-esteem in order to propose a change of course.

You can not be forever attached to a person and a complicated situation. Take a reasonable time period and if you can not gradually progress you might be wrong and there is no possibility of reversing.

It's time to change course and look for another site. Not always what you want is viable and we must accept it and move viviendo.Otras lifestyle choices can also be valid and rewarding, not blind you to anything and be flexible.

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